بِسْــــــــــــــــــمِ اﷲِالرَّحْمَنِ اارَّحِيم
In the name of Allah Most Compassionate, Most Merciful
Assalamualaikum wrh ^^
Ingatkan nak belog dalam Bahasa today tapi tapi tapi. Okay saya terai. Hehe.
Hari ini saya mahu memperkatakan perihal (kehkeh kan dah jadi skema. Kita mix lah ye) So today I'd like to talk about an issue that's been very sensitive and personally close to myself. Hee agak berat hati sebenarnya nak menulis tapi rasanya macam perlu. Sangat sangat perlu.
About lurvee. Okay, no. About couple, to be more precise.
Don't run! Don't close the browser! Not just yet. If you're one of them couples, I don't expect you to terus clash ke apa after reading this. But I hope what I've to share will make you ponder, okies?
DISCLAIMER: By no means am I trying to offend anyone through this post, especially my ex-boyfriend. He's been nothing but a great guy to me and if to have a relationship before marriage was halal in Islam, I'd never even think about leaving him. *Muka serious* trolololz. kbai.
Oh and by no means juga am I pointing out this to anyyybody by anyyy means. What's been written here is in shaa Allah what Allah nak sampaikan. This is not from me, but from Allah. Because what I'm writing here is really mostly based on my own experiences :/
Well, let's start from the start then, shall we? Growing up, I was fed with all sorts of fairytales (Disney yay!), so like in all those movies, my life's purpose was to find my prince charming and live my rightful, well-deserved happily ever after. Noho kidding. I was so sucked into this illusion of finding true love that at such a young age, I was already a 'love expert' (or so I used to call myself. Ha)
Okay serious.
I know a lot of people already touched on the issue, countless bloggers etc, why should you listen to me, right? Well I don't know. Maybe because I was exactly like the typical girl who couldn't live without a boyfriend. I'm not here to tell you of my old love tales, but I can assure you my relationships were the really serious and long-termed ones, the ones that people go all "Aww" and "Imagine how their babies would look like" yeah stuffs like that. I used to not be able to live a day without texting my boyfriend and once couldn't live a day without seeing him. And I couldn't imagine my life without him. Astahgfirullahalazim, astaghfirullahalazim, astaghfirullahalazim.
But I made it out! Alhamdulillah. (Though I'm still fighting, biiznillah)
I know it's totally fitrah for us to want to be loved and have someone constantly care about us, especially us girls, right? Tapi tahukah anda apa itu cinta sebenarnya? What is love? Siapakah dia Pencipta Cinta? Doesn't the Creator of Love Himself deserve our love the most, wayyy before any other? Matlamat kita di dunia, bukankah untuk menjadi abid dan khalifah kepada Sang Pencipta? Jadi bukankah kita sepatutnya melakukan segala-galanya untuk Dia? So why should it be an exception when it comes to the matter of love? Segala jenis cinta kita di dunia ini, sepatutnya kerana Allah, lillahi ta'ala. Untuk mencapai cinta yang hakiki. The real true love. Cinta yang satu. Cinta Illahi. (Peringatan untuk diri *ketuk-ketuk kepala sendiri*)
Cinta kepada Rasulullah, kerana Allah
Say : "If you do love Allah, follow me: Allah will love you and forgive you your sins: for Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful" [Quran 3:31]
Cinta kepada Ibu Bapa, kerana Allah
"Show gratitude to Me and to your parents: to Me is (your final) Goal" [Quran 31:14]
Cinta kepada sahabat, kerana Allah
The Believers are but a single Brotherhood: so make peace and reconciliation between your two (Contending) brothers; and fear Allah, that you may receive Mercy [Quran 49:10]
& even cinta kepada pasangan hidup, kerana Allah
“And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in peace and tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): Verily in that are signs for those who reflect” [Quran 30:21]
Cinta itu indah. Patutkah kita meletakkan sesuatu yang indah pada sesuatu yang tidak indah, yang tidak halal? :/
"Tapi susahhhnyaaahh nak tinggalkan diaaa"
Wallahi, it's not going to be easy darlings. Sometimes it still gets hard for me. I still need constant reminders from my friends. I think it is not an exaggeration to say I tried nearly 50 times to break up with my last boyfriend before we actually managed to end the tie. It was never easy. I tried to make him hate me, tried to make myself hate him, but it was to no avail. So I set it out all clearly and simply by telling him that what we're doing isn't right, and it had to end. And so we let go. Kalau ada jodoh, ada la. Darlings you have to be strict :| and hold on to your stand :| Yang sebab 50 kali cuba tapi gagal tu sebab tak tegas lah. Dua tiga hari, lupa jihad sebenar. Gave in to my own weakness. :(
"But he reeeally loves me and I'm sure he's gonna marry me anytime soon. Soon. Ish. Like, 3-4 years?"
D: Hoho I used to tell that to myself too. "What if there won't be anymore good guys like him nanti, if I let him go? :( What iffff??" Terlupa janji Allah yang ini..
"Dan sesiapa yang bertawakal kepada Allah nescaya Dia (Allah) akan mencukupkannya" [Quran 64:3]
and confidentkah you guys will end up marrying each other? What if Izrail datang menjemput dahulu? Allahu Allah T.T
"Aish, kami tak main lah couple-couple ni. Tak pernah declare pun. Lagipun kami ni Islamic, kejut solat tahajjud bagai"
Lulz no comment. Ini pun ana pernah go through (Ceh ana terus) Jemput baca post Aiman Azlan atau Inche Gabbana.
Cuma..
Say: "Not equal are things that are bad and things that are good, even though the abundance of the bad may dazzle you; so fear Allah, O you that understand; that (So) you may prosper" [Quran 5:100]
"Tapi our parents dah tahu pun about each other, dah kenal pun. They've already given their blessings to us. Tak kan tak boleh kot?"
Bestnya parents dah kenal ^^ Hopefully kalian dah ada ikatan pertunangan yang direstui parents, and menjaga hubungan i.e. tak contact sangat, tak berjumpa melainkan dengan mahram seperti yang Hilal Asyraf buat masa time pertunangan dia tu - mereka jarang sangat contact sepanjang pertunangan mereka selama 2 tahun, time birthday je wish. Sebab dia nak simpan yang lagi sweet untuk after marriage. Halalan thoyyiba. Awww. Tapi ingat, pertunangan tak menghalalkan apa-apa (Ayat common lulz) And just because parents kita dah redha, tak semestinya Allah redha.
Allah T.T.T.T.T.T.T.T *lari masuk bilik malu tunjuk muka*
"Tapi awak, kita tak cukup kuat lah nak tinggalkan dia T.T Kita cuba ubah dia ke arah yang baik, okay kan? Moga-moga Allah redha"
T.T I used to think the same way too. Bukannya tak tahu couple tu haram, dah lama dah tahu. Masa form 2 lagi. Tapi.. tak cukup kuat nak tinggalkan. It was just too hard.. Then tersentak baca ayat ni..
"O you who believe! What is the matter with you, that, when you are asked to go forth in the Cause of Allah, you cling heavily to the earth? Do you prefer the life of this world to the Hereafter? But little is the comfort of this life, as compared with the Hereafter" [Quran 9:38]
Allah dah suruh berjihad, Allah dah hadirkan kesedaran dan hidayah dalam hati, tapi kita still refuse untuk menyahut seruan jihad itu. Allahu Rabbi. T.T
So let's stop saying "I can't, it hurts too much, it's too hard" and instead "I can, for Allah. Anything, for Allah. In shaa Allah, biiznillah"
"Maka untuk Tuhanmu, bersabarlah" [Quran 74:7]
For the One who loves you the most, where no one else in this world loves you more than He, sabarlah sekejap je. Sekejap je lagi ^^ Sebab Allah dah janji dah..
"Peace unto you for that you presevered in patience! Now how excellent is the final Home!" [Quran 13:24]
So ask ourselves. Cinta kita berlandaskan apa? Jika benar kita mencintai dia kerana Allah, carilah cinta Allah itu dulu. Biarkan dia juga mencari cinta yang Hakiki itu. And if it's meant to be, Allah akan mempertemukan jua dua hati yang berjuang di jalan Allah itu. Jodoh itu kan milik Allah, kita hanya bertawakkal and hope for the best (and redha! ^^). Trust Him, Allah knows what we know not (:
P/S: Tapi ingat juga yaa (ingatan untuk diri sendiri MOST OF ALL) banyak lagi perjuangan kita di medan jihad ini. Untuk membangunkan diri, membangunkan rakan-rakan, membangunkan ummah, to clear the world's perspectives on Islam, to set right what has been done wrong. So kalau rasa tak sedia lagi tu, tak payah fikir sangat lah kot. (Again, talking to myself)
Wallahualam.
Asif jiddan kalau ada apa-apa yang tersalah tulis, harap diperbetulkan.
Jazakallahu khair in advance ^^v
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